Monday, February 27, 2012

Our past is our history

I am a bit sick of hearing: get over the past, don't live in the past, the past is the past, be in the moment, the present is all you have. I think what is really being said is “I am sick of listening to you” which can be very isolating. If we find it difficult to get over our past, there's usually a reason, and a good one at that.

Our past is our history. History can teach us a lot about people, nature, where we came from ... it's good and it's bad and everything in between, but being ashamed of our past is essentially the same as being ashamed of ourself.

Being in the present is important, it is where our power to change things lies, but not at the expense of forgetting our history. Forgetting, erasing or pretending our past doesn't exist doesn't feel healthy to me, integrating it and learning from it feels a lot better. Being at ease with our past is a sign of being at peace with who we are and where we have come from.

If you want to understand today, you have to search yesterday ~ Pearl Buck

Monday, February 20, 2012

EFT helps me to feel ...

What emotions do you find yourself shying away from? When you feel what is a difficult emotion, try saying when you tap “tapping helps me to feel ...”.


Ask yourself how you know that the emotion you're feeling is fear and not anger for example. What helps you to identify it as fear, what do you feel like when you feel afraid? What do you feel like when you feel angry? jealous? guilty? Keep tapping until you feel the emotion starting to move, leaving you feeling calmer and more able to feel uncomfortable and difficult emotions without becoming overwhelmed by them.

Your tapping might go something like this;

Top of head: Tapping helps me feel this fear
Eyebrow: Even though I don't want to feel it
Side of the eye: Because it's frightening
Under eye: It feels like it could take over
Under the nose: And sometimes it does
Under the chin: And then I panic
Collar bone: And it feels awful
Under the arm: I have to do something to not feel afraid

Top of the head: Because it feels so frightening
Eyebrow: I feel afraid
Side of the eye: I feel afraid
Under the eye: How do I know I feel afraid?
Under the nose: Because I feel it ... (knot in throat, tight stomach, sweating, shallow breathing, tap on how fear shows up for you in your body)
Under the chin: My stomach is in knots
Collar bone: It feels constricting
Under the arm: This fear feels constricting

Top of the head: It feels like it's in control
Eyebrow: And I'm powerless
Side of the eye: It's very hard to do anything but feel afraid sometimes
Under the eye: It's so hard to feel this fear
Under the nose: But I feel it
Under the chin: Otherwise I wouldn't know what fear feels like
Collar bone: I'm afraid of what fully feeling this fear could do to me
Under the arm: So I have to avoid it ...

Or you can keep it really simple and say "EFT helps me to feel fear" as you're tapping on all the points.

If you surrender to the wind, you can ride it ~ Toni Morrison

Monday, February 13, 2012

Coughing to be heard

Have you ever had a dry, tickly, chronic cough that lasted longer than a month? What do you think caused it? If you have ruled out any medical causes or allergies, consider that you might be straining to be heard.

Feeling heard is one of the biggest issues many of us deal with and if we don't feel heard it can manifest in different ways. Louise Hay, in You Can Heal Your Life says coughing is a desire to bark at the world: “See me! Listen to me!”.

Rate how true her phrase feels when you say it out loud, 10 being true and 0 being false: “I am noticed and appreciated in the most positive ways. I am loved”, if you have any tailenders or objections you can start tapping on them. Tapping diagram and procedure

being heard is so close to being loved, that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable by david augsburger

Monday, February 06, 2012

Relief or peace?

We all tend to take our health and other things for granted when we feel good. When we feel sick or something comes up we may realise how much we might have taken something for granted.

Sometimes we need relief in the moment because we feel overwhelmed and that's ok, more than ok. But sometimes we ignore what's underneath and instead of going for peace we go for moments of relief and then go back to our old ways of doing things. And the pattern keeps repeating ...

Looking at the reasons as to why we might want to ignore something is really useful. Fear can be a big reason as can any other emotion you find difficult or uncomfortable to feel. It's a good idea to first work on the strongest emotion (or whatever else you feel might be relevant) around an issue before working on the issue itself. Rate how strong the emotion is from 0 to 10, 10 being the strongest charge it has for you and start tapping. EFT diagram and procedure

Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek but a means by which we arrive at that ~ Martin Luther King, Jr